Construction activity has been approved by the BMC and so only they can revoke it. The noise from this construction does not have a volume control knob and so we cannot stop it.

I may well have settled for this bull-shit. Most of us do. hence most of us listen to this racket incessantly, get angry and frustrated eventually venting on the nearby people we love the most and unsuspecting pedestrians and co-citizens.

The following are strategies to take:

1. Call the police incessantly about noise pollution (if you call 100, take a name and complaint number). Technically I have seen them fine Rs. 5,000 per offence. Builders are obstinate and the police tires quickly. This is not a long term solution but creates enough headache for phase II. Use this as the guideline for assessing the limits in your area. Be clear to them that you are not complaining about the construction itself, but the noise pollution. Show them the guideline if needed. The iPhone has a free decibel meter that is quite useful in demonstrating the level of noise.

Note that police may tell you that the rules apply to only loudspeakers or those things whose volume can be regulated. This is not true. It applies to all noise pollution.

2. Procedurally, if you wish to stop the construction activity, you need to get someone from the BMCs environmental pollution office (I couldn’t find it online, but there is supposed to be an office somewhere near Worli Sea Face) to come and assess the noise and say it is too much. The report then needs to be forwarded to the BMC office that sanctioned the construction activity and then the process to stop the activity will begin. Good luck!

The path we took was a little unorthodox, but worked pretty well.

1. First we incessantly called the police (call 101, lodge a complaint, take a complaint number and log it with you. Also, log the consequences. Did someone come, did the noise stop and for how long).

2. Make friends with the local police officer (typically, chief inspectors are very responsive and a personal visit to your local police station will get you a meeting) and ask them to come home to get the full stereophonic experience over a cup of tea. Show them a list of calls you have made and how you have documented responses. Be careful to be nice and not make them feel inadequate at any time. Good time to use the iPhone app to demonstrate the noise level.

3. We had the rock breakers chief come by and ultimately struck a deal in front of the police whereby we agreed that all activity would be only from 9 am to 2 pm ( at the end of the day, some compromise is required) this would ensure minimum exposure of noise for the children and people at work. They gave us the contractors direct number and agreed that in the vent of an emergency between 9 and 2, they would stop work if needed.

The system has worked well. If I heard breaking at p2:01 and called the foreman, work would. E stopped immediately.

We also complain routinely about noise on Sunday and after hours first to the construction site foreman and later to the police and get prompt and effective responses.

If I happen to call the police for another reason, the officer on duty knows me as the “noise complainer”

Good luck, and keep fighting. It’s the only way we can save what little is left of this city. There are always good people who will listen and help. It just takes a little to find them.

It’s 3:30 am and we are up. Aman had set her alarm for 3 pm, but fortunately her anxiety got the better of her and she was up at 2:57 am. In laws, daughter and wife in tow, we hurtled off the the airport to catch our 5:20 am to Udaipur. For a change, I slept through the entire flight and we landed to a brisk Udaipur morning at 7 am, where our bed and breakfast had arranged for us to be picked up. Thirty minutes and we were at the Lake View Villa on Rani road, greeted by our smiling host for the next few days, Mr. M. P. Singh.

Pleasantly, the villa, a bed and breakfast was all it promised to be from the photos and more was still to come. We had booked ourselves an extravagant suite and super deluxe room, which together came at a princely sum of under Rs. 5000 per night thanks to Aman’s foresight of booking early. A quick cup of chai and we were off to tour Udaipur.

We had strayed from usual protocol, where Aman plans everything to a T long before and has thoroughly researched all there is to research. This time, we were going to “wing it” for the most part.

Mr. Singh kindly connected us with a rickshaw driver, Mr. Bherulal Chauhan (9829510390), an affable gentleman with a neat auto rickshaw. Mr. Singh was kind enough to arrange our first fare (Rs. 500 for the day; later, it was discovered that was not the day rate, but the Behrulal Udaipur Darshan rate, which includes attractions of his choice. A little discussion later, it was bargained to the rate for our needs for the day). Bottom line, in tourist land, you are a tourist and will always overpay. Best to pick a number and roll with it, then not get too upset. My father in law (FIL) was keen to use his “local boy” lingo and talk to wangle a better deal, but it was Diwali amidst Marwaris and good luck if were going to be cut any slack. At first, we were irritated with the rickshaw driver for constantly trying to direct our trip, but soon enough, we explained our plans and he adhered to them.

Breakfast was the first stop and we went to the Jayesh Mishtan Bhandar at Chetak circle. Hot pyaz (onion) ki kachoris, dal (lentil) ki kachoris, two plates of hot jalebis, mawa kachoris and a few mirchi (chilli) wadas later, everyone had decided it was time to move on and all 4.5 of us bundled into an auto hurtled towards the city palace. Needless to say, breakfast was awesome, but also about a ton in the stomach!

Located in the hear of the city, the city palace is one of the top attractions in Udaipur. Rs. 75 gets you in and another 150 gets the camera. The nicest thing the government has done is standardize guides and rates, so Rs. 450 got us a guide to take us around. The palace is filled with the usual memorabilia and tales associated with Rajput valor, courage and as Anya added in so aptly, arrogance (on the side, Anya explains arrogance quite simply as “a little bit too proud”. Oxford English dictionary, are you listening?). Saturday at 11 am, the museum is quite crowded and any intentions of quietly cruising through are at best a dream. Nevertheless, the exciting parts of the city palace include Rana Pratap’s weapons and armor as well as Chetak’s saddle, a room dedicated to Fateh Singh and his life as a paraplegic, the royal rooms, but nicest of all, the peacock courtyard and an area where one can see the city through different colored glass.

Lunch was at the vintage car museum and it’s attached garden cafe. The maharaja has about 20-25 cars on display and 250 let’s you see the cars and eat lunch, while 150 let’s you avoid the cars. Anya and I went in to have Alok at the cars, which include some wonderful Mercedes, Rolls Royce models, an old school bus, and even a 6 horse chariot. I like the old convertible MG the most. Anya wanted to be pictured in front of most. Lunch is as most food in the area oily and average. The 3 am start, kachoris, sun and oily lunch were taking their toll and it was time to retreat to the villa for an afternoon siesta, which ran to 5 pm.

A quick tea and coffee later Mr. Behrulal was back and we were off for a tour of Moti Magri (Rana Pratap memorial) followed by a boat ride to Nehru Garden on the Fateh Sagar lake. The memorial is a ice garden with a big statue of the Rana and various descriptions of his life in brief including the story of how Chetak came to him and Chetak’s less famous brother Natak, who died during testing of the horses (no kidding!).

The boat ride to Nehru Garden is about 5-7 minutes long and the garden is a nice one, in the middle of the lake, which was lit up for the festive season. The cherry on the ice cream though was a stand that for Rs. 100 would dress Anya (or any of us for that matter) in traditional garb and photograph her or allow us to photograph her. The smile on her face from this is priceless!

Dinner was at Lake View Villa, where a simple home cooked meal served us well after the heavy binging through the day. Of course, we finished all the food that was meant for us and ended up digging into a bit of our hosts dinner too. This of course was the result of everyone being insistent that they did not want to eat much dinner, but being perfectly content to stuff our faces when the opportunity provided itself.

Day 2: Udaipur-Ranakpur-Sadri-Kumbalgarh-Udaipur

A restful night in a most comfortable room meant we were raring to go for the main attraction for the trip. Ranakpur, Sadri and Kumbalgarh. Our car was promptly there by 7:30 am and we promptly boarded by 8:15. Two hours later, we hit Ranakpur. The temple and it’s side temples are quite fantastic and he local living arrangements are simple, but very well maintained by the trust. A key tourist point; Rs. 50 gets the camera in, but only between noon and 5 pm. Otherwise, it is strictly for worship (I knew there was something wrong when I didn’t see a single tourist vehicle along with us!). Nevertheless, he wait till noon was well worth it. Pre noon, prayers with Anya. Post noon pictures. Aya topped it off with her first dharamshala meal.

Next stop, Sadri; but before that we would have to stop off to see FILs doctor friend who has been in the area for the last 1 years or so. Prior to this he has been posted as a medical office all over the area. Now, at 73, he runs arogya dham, a holistic and regular health clinic with rural ICU beds. Trying to convince FIL to read x rays remotely for them before he decides to relocate.

Lunch was at a local dhaba, run by one of the cooks from the village who worked for a friend of FILs. Ghee filled, but delicious gatta nu shaak, seve tamatar nu shaak, makkai and bajra rotas with lassi followed and then, as we bade farewell to the doctor, we mustered the strength to lift our bellies and proceed to the main mission; discovering the Sadri house. As we made our way past the post office, on the right, Mohan awaited us and we opened the old home. Complete with all the components of a small village home; the front porch to receive guests, the kitchen and behind, the bedrooms, store rooms and prayer room surrounding a central courtyard. The store room was complete with old marbles and old monaco biscuit tins that i haven’t seen in years. The old cooking utensils and luggage took one back to a time that scarily enough seems not so long ago. In the corner lay an old stone mill for grinding grain and Anya jumped at the opportunity of testing her muscle.

As we wound our way up the narrow staircase, the rooms revealed small cupboards with quaint old paintings of windmills on them. An old charpai had painted ends that were wonderful. As we walked still further up to the last level, we came upon the terrace from which my FIL watched inquisitively and wondered what Kumbalgarh fort was really. We were to look into the room constructed especially for my in laws after their wedding, but it seemed the key was misplaced. To watch Anya and my FIL wander through the home and see all those things they had discussed for the last few years. Suddenly, it seemed like he was a 5 year old, matching his grand-daughter. Such moments are truly priceless.

We ambled along the streets of Sadri, stopping by old homes, hearing of how famous former residents had become. Yet, there Kay Sadri, dusty narrow streets with broken down homes, a far cry from a slightly more glorious time. It’s successful former residents sink their money for blessings from the God’s at nearby Ranakpur and forget the humble roots they came from. Sad but true, this is the story of our India.

The next decision on Kumbalgarh arose and ultimately, we decided to follow through. The group slept through the 90 minute ride to Kumbalgarh, only to reach at 6 and realize the fort closes at 5 pm. A casual stroll and ultimately, a decision to see the sound and light show at 6:45 saw us spend some more time at the fort. The show itself is informative, but unwantingly humorous. The fort has a theme song which includes its name and had a group of youngsters near me dancing a mini wave to it. This has now become Anya and my theme song for the trip and we have adopted the dance too. Thank you.

A 2 hour drive back to Udaipur. The lead in our stomachs from lunch helped us so we could last tgrough to dinner at Sapphire, a family restaurant in Udaipur. Needless to say the long and tiring day was followed by a most blissful sleep!

Day 3: Udaipur

Wanderlust And a hectic day meant Aman was keeping things light today (also he birthday). A brief haggle with an auto driver (Mr. Behrulal had another client for the day) led to the argument for the day (funny how, try as one may it is impossible to spend a spouse’s birthday without fighting with them; or am I the only one?).

Nevertheless, the troupe forged on to the crystal room in the city palace. Expensive, but worth it (Rs. 500 per head includes cold drink and audio guide) it is in a part of the city palace still habited by the royal family. Being misguided a bit by the guards, we took a slightly longer route (which did not go down well with FIL and the tempers from the morning). Ultimately, though we made it to the hall. The large banquet hall in the center is quite nice, with 1000 kg chandeliers! From here we went up the the gallery itself. Crystal ordered in the late 1800s by Sajjan Singh made it’s way to India only after he had died. The crystal lay packed for the next 100 years till the present “custodian” of Mewar decided to open it up and put it in display. Thanks to this, one gets to see a few sofa sets, bed and pretty much all furniture, crockery and cutlery made entirely of crystal. The stop off at the restaurant in the end is a welcome rest stop and also provides a lovely view of the lake.

The rickshaw driver failed to show up and so we went off to a small eatery nearby for some very average, but fortunately light lunch. One the rickshaw driver showed up, our cavalcade proceeded to hathi pol, where the hunt for Anya’s chaniya choli and bangles continued. Camera in hand I was off taking pictures of Udaipur’s quaint galleries and home facades. An hour later, we were back, in time for the vacation special afternoon siesta.

Rising again at 5 pm, the in laws had enough of the culture trail and so Anya, Aman and I availed of Mr. Behrulal’s services to head to Bagor ki Haveli, in the heart of the city. As seems to be the tradition everywhere, the main attraction closes by 5 pm and the evening show is at 7, leaving everyone with a two hour window of boredom (some call this shopping Anyways, the show at 7 was quite nice and certainly worth the Rs. 35 per head. 1 hour quick preview of Bhil and Rajasthani danced with a puppet show thrown in for good measure! Anya’s excitement was quite incredible.

Anya was left with the in laws for the evening and Aman and I headed off to the Lalit lax I Vilas for dinner. A wonderful ambience with almost no one else, but much to be desired on the food front. All made up for by the wonderful company of my now not angry spouse.

Day 4: Chittorhgarh

A more leisurely start to the day meant we were in the taxi by 8:45 and made our way to Chittorhgarh over the next two hours. A winding road leads up past 7 gates till one enters the much talked about fort, one of the largest in Asia. Rs. 5 gets you in, 20 the taxi and for Rs. 450, a guided tour. The fort is large and the weather hot, so best to tour it in the car.

The fort was initially built by the Maurya dynasty and later built up by the famous Rana Kumbha. The fort was apparently lost before Rana Pratap came to power and so the association between the two is a little ironic. For what it is worth, the fort harbors tales of sacrifice (Rani Padmini), devotion (Meerabai) and valor (Rana Pratap’s constant struggle to win back the fort; incidentally, many of the Bhils in the area refused to enter the fort till it was won back and only finally entered when Jawaharlal Nehru requested them once India gained freedom).

First stop, the Siddheshwar temple and victory tower. Enter the monkeys. Tons of langurs here and ate odd very aggressive rhesus monkey. The latter decided he had enough of our guide and had a quick go at him. Needless to say, anxiety levels in the group were high, but the rest of the visit passed of without further event. Buying chana at this location is not a good idea as it attracts the monkeys who are quite happy and ingenious in getting you to release them. Between the victory tower and temple is the ground where Rani Padmini and 18000 women burnt themselves so they would not be taken by the invading Khilji army (the Rani herself burnt herself in a secret passage). The victory tower is 9 stories high and one is allowed to climb to the eighth where one gets an excellent view of the fort and the area (claustrophobics beware). The exterior and interior are carved with scenes from the Ramayana.

The car moves on to Rani Padmini’s palace and the location from which through mirrors Khilji was allowed to see Padmini. The geometry is interesting as one can only see the spot through the mirror and not directly.

Last stop, the royal quarters, complete with an area for the king’s harem, Meerabai’s quarters and the royal toilet. Also, the secret passageway where Padmini burnt herself.

Lunch was at the Pratap Palace hotel mainly because it serves cold beer! We had to sit outside as the air conditioned dining hall was booked for some foreign tourists. Anyways, the beer was cold and the meal very different and rustic. Thoroughly enjoyed the aloo palak and mushroom masala, topped it off with hot gulab jamuns and got ready for the food coma for the ride back.

In Udaipur, a quick stop at some sev shops and then back to the hotel. Arranged for a taxi to take us to Apni Dhani (en route to the airport and actually on the way back from Chittorhgarh). Apni Dhani is a rural village atmosphere with dance, puppets and the rather disturbing child performing tight rope tricks. The camel ride is up and down a hill, so spend the Rs. 40 for it without expecting too much in return. The best part of this place is probably the meal plan, which includes white butter, tons of different rotis, ghee and tremendous amounts of cholesterol delivered in every possible way. This put us well on the way back to the next round of food com back. At the hotel. This potential heart attack came at the luxurious price of Rs. 755 for two adults and a child.

The night was spent with some trepidation on how the last day would be spent. Should we have booked an earlier flight etc etc. We checked out of our rooms by 10 am, caught a rickshaw and went off for a boat ride (Rs. 1200 for the whole boat, 45 minutes) around lake Pichola, which offers wonderful views of the city palace, lake palace and all of Udaipur’s peri-lake attractions. There is actually a different jetty from which rides start, but our hostess knew someone and so we managed to catch the boat at the hotel Udai Kothi (another impressive looking heritage hotel).

Lunch was booked at the Udai Vilas palace, supposedly one of the most luxurious hotels in the world. Lunch was decent and we managed to stroll around the hotel a bit to get a sense of this much talked about hotel. The service was good, food surprisingly edible for a five star and the hotel and its grounds quite extravagant. An expensive, but I suppose well spent 3 hours.

Returned to the hotel to pick up our bags, a quick cup of tea/coffee and a bonus of bebinca as our hostess was originally from Goa. Now I can honestly say the best bebinca I have eaten was in Udaipur!

A series of on-time movements ensured we made it back to mumbai and home by 9 pm

A wonderful vacation with much to thank our hosts at lake view villa, Aman for organizing and Anya and FIL for facilitating the star attraction of the trip. Memorable and relaxing.

In addition to this, individuals have been influential in unraveling many more corrupt practices through RTI petitions and other crusades. I’ve had my share of small battles, “suffered” from them, but felt much better at the end of the day. I hope many more have. Kudos to all.

The media will as always move on to more interesting stuff. Someone, somewhere will probably accept renumeration for suprssing a story. Many recurrent crimes (my pet peeve…how many BEST bus drivers have been pulled over or fined for running lights, excessive honking and accidents?) will continue until someone makes it their life’s mission (God bless them when they do). My well meaning friends and relatives who sent me text messages and e-mails to go and join Anna’s fight against corruption at some maidan or the other will probably go back to jumping signals or talking on their cell phones while driving while conveniently palming off the Rs. 100 note to get out of a painful court procedure or  hassle of having their license taken and going to collect it another day. This is conveniently justified by the “live and let live” philospohy. “I only do small bribes, I can’t understand how these politicians can fleece the country of so much money!”. The line is thin. Very thin.

The issues of large scale corruption during government tenders etc and small scale corruption during day-to-day living are in many ways different and in many others the same. Different in that I don’t believe that every person who pays the Rs. 100 bribe will necessarily if in a position of power conveniently keep Rs. 1000 crore aside for themselves. By the same accord, reverse may also be true (albeit most of the time people who are busy siphoning of Rs. 1000 Crore are certainly not likely to fall into the small daily “tamashas” that the rest of us do. Morally though, both are equally bad (of course you can massage it any way you like to make you feel better, but that doesn’t change things!)

To go out, support and rejoice in the success that Anna Hazare has brought about is wonderful. To tell the police officer to take your license because you were caught talking on the phone or ran a light and refuse to pay the convenient bribe is much harder. Think of Mr. Hazare, your excitement at this grand upheaval next time you are in a soup. The more of us who take the hard way out, the more likely Anna and all of us will end up on the winning side.

Admittedly also, I don’t think I was always this way. Weddings used to be a blast. Running around with cousins, creating mayhem, playing dandiya raas with the sole purpose of hitting people’s fingers, swiping not only the grooms, but everyone on stage’s shoes and slippers and generally making a nuisance of oneself. The cherry on the ice cream of-course was being introduced to an old long lost auntie who would tug at your cheeks and ask loudly “olkhyo ke” (did you recognize me?) followed by “tane joelo tyare tu to etlo nanho hato” (when I last saw you, you were so small) responded to by a blank look, a blunt “no” and a quick dash off to a far away part of the venue to continue the mayhem, leaving the parents to clean up the mess.

Much of the joy was the realization that it was going to be difficult for anyone to reprimand us for our behaviour in the midst of this grand event and all the socializing that they needed to catch up with. I say again, weddings were fun.

Food at weddings on the other hand was never a big thing for me. The answer was unanimously the same at all weddings, oily and terrible. If you are going for a wedding, go for the mayhem.

Since our return to India, largely since most of the family isn’t really sure where we are, we haven’t been invited to too many. Nevertheless, there are a few that sneak by. Recently, we were invited to a couple of family weddings. One, a “location” wedding and the other one, on the other side of town in the evenings might as well have been one considering Mumbai traffic.

The weddings were elegantly done and “well executed”. I can use a corporate term because they are now run this way with various aspects of the wedding outsourced to various parties with certain individuals assigned the roles of CEO and COO etc. I am surprised we didn’t have to fill out feedback forms after (these are still taken and given subtly through the thicket of all grapevines, the family grapevine). There were organized cards with specific dates and times for events (which is nothing new), but even the sub events in the event were clearly demarcated. Events that used to be spontaneous such as the dancing etc had been practiced, choreographed and set to specific music and lights with costume changes.

This was our nightmare. The expense of the wedding, how everyone was behaving, what everyone was wearing, how deep into the closet would we have to dig to find appropriate clothes, the time we would spend traveling and the excuses we would make for escaping. These are the thoughts that preoccupied us. Not surprisingly, they occupied many others we knew. Our conversations went into tele-conferencing, tele-weddings and other innovative ways of making a presence felt from afar.

Anya, our five-year on the other hand had a blast. The simultaneous arrival of an aunt with a bag full of goodies would not hold her back from going alone to the wedding (“the gifts will be there when I get back” she said nonchalantly). Someone mentioned dancing to her and she promptly decided it was up her alley. A cousin was over and in two sessions, she was ready to light up Bollywood. She was cool as a cucumber as she went on as the “first act” of the show and quite effortlessly performed in front of some family, but mostly 200 strangers. She popped off stage and her first word to me were; “I forgot two steps”. She went on to sit enamoured for the next three hours watching the choreographed “tamasha” that unfolded and was perfectly content to repeat it a week later for the next wedding. She was also perfectly happy to discuss her own wedding plans in detail. There was however no mayhem for her. Her style is people watching and absorbing the environment.

Maybe that’s what it is. There are some who love it for the wedding; the lights, the dressing up, the dancing and the “tamasha” and will probably continue to love it always (as many of my aunts do and Anya may) and then there are the others (like me) who loved it for it’s mayhem and now supposedly older and accountable for one’s actions find they’ve lost their zing

Another RSNA rolls around and with it, another missed birthday. This must stop. Hopefully soon. Meanwhile, we must recap the year that has flown by.

It’s been another eventful year for you. For the routine progression, you moved to KG with a glowing academic report. As usual, we are strong with the spoken word but our motor skills are teetering on average. C’est la vie; can’t have it all I suppose. We got our first taste of being bullied at school, which I thought you handled quite well for a while, but ultimately since things were getting a little out of hand, we decided to change things around a little bit and things seem to have changed for the better. The nice part about the whole little event is that you seem to bear no grudges or fear towards the “bulliers”. I am also happy that we have sorted things out without teaching you to “hit back”. I was also vey impressed how at 4 and change you managed to use ploys like distraction to try and move the attention from you to something else and not someone else. Very mature for someone your age and quite honestly even mine!

On the home front, it has been a little challenging. During the middle of the year, both mummy and I got busier with work and for a few months, I even had to commute away from home every day. Amidst all the other growing pains above and our ambitious move to stop you from thumb sucking, the reaction was not, as expected great. There was more sticking to ma and more distancing from me.  As the year progressed however, we worked out a good balance, and things seem to be back on even keel.

From a travel perspective, you had the usual trips to visit family in Pune, complete with one around Paryushan when you went and proudly toured five temples in one day with your great grandmother (more than I have seen in the last five years!).

Our summer sojourn to the US was fun as always. Your interest and excitement with the food in New York was much more than the year before and you decided to check out the restaurant scene with new fervor. A good meal at one meant you wanted to try another, which I thought was quite interesting for your age, when a good meal at one place means you eat nowhere else for the rest of the trip.

Travel continued to include your first monsoon hike. The tall grass prevented you from seeing things the whole time and this led to some anxious moments. Nevertheless, you survived and can now proudly claim (and I think I am more excited about it than you) that you have seen a crab in the wild, touched snails, looked under rocks for worms and ambled in a Western Ghat monsoon.

The highlight for our travel season (not quite yours as you would have rather been in Pune doing Rangolis) was a visit to Egypt over Diwali. We weren’t quite sure how you would take to it, but you seemed to do quite well. You took cruise down the Nile from Aswan (seeing the unfinished obelisk, high dam, Philae temple, strolling through the spice market in a backpack, half asleep) via Kom Ombo and Edfu to end up in Luxor to see the Valley of Kings, Queens and temples of Karnak and Luxor. Came back to Cairo and saw Tut Ankh Amun’s treasures and the mummies in the Egyptian museum (it amazes me that Snow White and the Seven Dwarves frightens you and you remain unfazed by mummies and other such gory sights!). Went to Giza and Sakkara to see the pyramids and the Sphinx (the highlight for you was going into the small pyramid of Menkaura and being the only person who did not need to bend!) and finally ended up strolling through the Khan-e-Khalili in a belly dancer scarf and head dress!

It has been fun to hear you effortlessly utter words like Wahid, itneen, talaita (one, two and three in Arabic) and correct mummy as she mispronounces Tut-Ankh-Amun and Hatshepsut!

You continue to grow as a typical single child, quite content to spend time on your own or with adults but I think you play well with other kids too. The all girls football class this year was a semi-disaster, with you competing against the grass as to which would move more Hopefully in the coming year, we do more games, sports and physical activity with other kids.

Nani and nanu continue to dote on you as expected. They complain sometimes that you don’t listen to them (I always say….if you don’t say no, she won’t know what it means…if you get my drift). Regular trips to mota dadi keep you in touch with her and fifi, fufu, Amit mama and Sunny mami remain regular skype attractions.

We continue to learn to enjoy your growth stay amused with your constant curiosity and incredibly ability to connect the most nondescript events. The challenge is always balancing curiosity, activity and discipline. I think we’re doing well so far. You’ve come up against your first challenges and we’ve learnt to deal with them together. I don’t need you to excel at anything in particular, but I want to help you do the hardest thing…be a good, responsible and concerned citizen of our planet. Something tells me we’re on the right track.

Happy Birthday!

Love always,

Papa

Another year rolls around and with it, another RSNA for me to spend it in Chicago. As always, here is the annual summary. I wonder if I am getting old or just plain old forgetful as it gets harder to put the year in perspective!

Health-wise, it has been a good one. No hospitalizations and we have put you on some regular medications for your reactive airways disease. So no big flare ups. The milk allergy unfortunately continues but you have adapted well to soy milk. There are moments when others consume milk containing products that you ask about it. Nevertheless, you manage it with a certain stoic calm of someone much older than you actually are. We all hope that in time, this too will pass.

It’s been an exciting change in school as in February, you became a “Cathedralite”! One of the “privileged few” as school puts it to be selected for the pre primary section. As best we can see, you enjoy school and are coping well car pooling with two boys who have off late been ganging up on you. Looks like you can deal with a brother without having one.

As far as we can tell, you really enjoy school. Your special likes are music and dancing, which I will get to more in detail later. Ms. Billimoria is your music teacher and from what I gather there is significant mutual admiration for eachother. always nice.

School has interesting projects which you have been a part of. The first term was all about Earth and the second about Children of the World. It was quite amazing to see how much you learnt through these. I am honestly quite excited about these new ways in which you are getting integrated learning.

Music has off late been a big thing for you, with things really taking off from some Gujarati CD’s that Nayanafoi sent you. As a result of this we at home are constantly exposed to such wonderful hits as “Mein ek biladi pali chhe” (I have a pet cat), “mara prabhu to nana chhe” (My God is small), “Pappa nu pet chhe fandalu” (My father has a fat belly)! The trouble for all of us is that we have to hear these sung by someone in an incredibly irritating nasal voice from 5-7 PM on most days. The advantage of course is that we get to watch you dance while you sing these!

Your tastes fortunately are quite varied, with Nanu downstairs exposing you to old hindi film songs, which you now enjoy and listening to jazz and rock upstairs with us. In addition, the thing I find most entertaining is the way you sing “Wonderful World”.

We of course get to see traces of Ms. Billimoria in you when you sit at your little grand piano at home. The typical routine is asking me to repeat the words of the song after you in syllables you create yourself. “A wayi naman ger, nocr ibfor abed”. Once this is learnt, we must sing to the music and you start playing the piano. As soon as I am about to start singing, you stop me and say “Wait, introduction!” Then, I must wait for your cue once the introductory music is over before we can start singing. This completely cracks me up!

In order to try and get you more formally involved in music, we have recently started you off at the Mehli Mehta academy for music appreciation and hopefully more. I can comfortably say you are enjoying yourself.

Unfortunately, we are in an era where kids must go to classes to stay occupied. Even though we don’t like it, we do send you to some. So far, it includes a “gym class” twice a week (God knows your parents need it more than you!), music class and Gujarati class once a week. Other than that, it’s once a week at least to your cousins nearby and once a week to the park nearby. The much promised swim trips haven’t quite materialized as often as one would like.

Your best friends continue to be Nani, whose energy seems to multiply by the minute when she is with you and quickly wanes when you leave! Long chats about the kids in her class and complicated exchanges of opinion are as always fascinating. The other wonderful figure in your life right now is Sangeeta, who looks after you when we are not around or if we are busy. The two of you have such a wonderful synergy and of course it helps that you can bully her into letting you paint and draw at will! I hope you pick up on her meticulousness and artistic sense.

Sarla Ba manages to keep you occupied for some time so long as you have crayons. I hope you have the chance to spend more time with her in future. What fraction of creativity we have is in many ways thanks to her.

Skype continues to be the bridge between you and our North American family with especially regular chats with fi-fi and fu-fu. As I travel too, the phone seems to fade away with your insistence on video conferencing. Well, c’est la vie, we must adapt and as usual you are adapting to a changing world with remarkable ease.

For us as usual, it has been a fabulous year and we can only look forward to more. Keep doing what you are doing, it seems to be working!

Lots of love,

Mama & Papa

Having got this activity up and running with good support from faculty and residents, we feel comfortable that we are not politically aligned and are open to working with the best teachers in the area to come and speak to the group. This has been done at a minimal cost with maximum benefit to a large number of residents. At this time, the radiology department at the central institution takes on the responsibility of booking an auditorium and visiting faculty come by their own volition and cost. The only cost we take on is that of photocopying the feedback forms. It is important that we align with the radiology departments in the city as we are looking for their support and guidance as we grow.

The next obvious step in this activity is growth. While the success of our initial foray might enthuse us to dive headlong into many other projects, one must exercise caution to prevent dilution of ones energies. At present, it is our feeling that although residents want more and we are becoming increasingly popular we must only take on what we can deliver. A simple rule of thumb that we have taken is that we only start a new activity once the previous has existed for a reasonable amount of time (6-8 months) and is functioning on it’s own. At the same time, one must continue to malke efforts to ensure seamless running of the previous efforts by incorporating a few more enthusiastic members.

Our feedback shows that residents are interested in a weekly educational activity. Finding faculty is the challenge! Based on available resources, we have proceeded to add to this, the stepchild “non-bone club” which deals with confusing or less well taught/understood topics. Over the last two months, we have had two very successful sessions; one on radiographic evaluation of the oesophagus another on the temporal bone. We plan to add to this, topics such as neonatal chest, mammography, nuclear medicine, neck spaces etc. It seems this too will be on its way.

These sessions have been developed slightly differently from the bone radiology sessions. As sometimes faculty may find it difficult to get a talk together, we requested them to involve their residents. In this case, the residents developed and delivered the talks with guidance from the supervising faculty. This allows residents access to an expert in the field as well as an opportunity to speak in a public forum. In our brief experience, residents have performed extremely well and learnt a tremendous amount from these experiences.

An additional area that seems to be under-served by our educational system is that of radiology/imaging physics. Our next and most ambitious plan is to foray into imaging physics in 12 monthly sessions. We are hoping to teach the basics of x ray and CT physics in about 4-5 sessions, ultrasound in 3 sessions and MRI in about 4 sessions. Obviously, finding faculty willing to take on this challenge is difficult but I am sure it is doable. Furthermore, as we have committed ourselves to quality, we are not keen to start something before we are sure we can do a good job with it.

If anyone has suggestions or wants to become involved with the Mumbai Haad Sena (literally translated Mumbai Bone Army), please feel free to e-mail mumbaihaadsena@gmail.com.

I hope all of you work on developing your own little armies. The way imaging is growing we need a good strong one for the future!

]]> http://wanderingradiologist.wordpress.com/2009/09/30/the-mumbai-haad-sena-community-radiology-education-for-a-city-%e2%80%93-part-ii/feed/ 0 wanderingradiologist http://wanderingradiologist.wordpress.com/2009/09/30/the-mumbai-haad-sena-community-radiology-education-for-a-city-%e2%80%93-part-i/ http://wanderingradiologist.wordpress.com/2009/09/30/the-mumbai-haad-sena-community-radiology-education-for-a-city-%e2%80%93-part-i/#comments Wed, 30 Sep 2009 05:08:09 +0000 wanderingradiologist http://wanderingradiologist.wordpress.com/?p=165 ]]> The best way to learn anything is in small sessions that are focused. Ones that highlight important things rather than rambling details and ones that are delivered in an entertaining manner. Most everything else contributes constructively to the sleep cycle!

I am proud to inform you that through a group of dedicated radiologists I am part of a regular monthly radiology education programme in the city of Mumbai. I am also happy to say that its simplicity is probably the cause for its success. What I am about to share with you is top secret and a little dedication will enable you to develop a similar programme in your city and ramp up the quality of radiology education nationwide.

The piece is written in two parts, the first that focuses on the actual setup and the second on early and future plans for development.

So what is this success story and what are its ingredients?

1. The core group: To start, the activity requires a small group of like-minded radiologists (residents and/or faculty) who agree to give a small amount of time on a regular basis towards education. It is important that the group be small, cohesive and bereft of ego hassles. Furthermore, it is good if everyone is from different institutions. The group must have the common goal of delivering the best possible education to residents irrespective of where they come from and preferably at no cost. In our case, most of our core faculty consists of 2-4 people at any given time, 33-36 years of age and everyone comes from a different institution.

2. Advisors: Make sure this group is small too. It should consist of ego free dedicated educators in your area. Specially ones who are not at loggerheads with other heads of departments in the city. One should also include any other faculty that wishes to be involved but is unable to dedicate time regularly. The senior advisors add legitimacy to the group while others provide suggestions for topics, space and feedback (which the core group filters as needed). In our case, we have one prominent head of department, one former head of department and a whole horde of radiology colleagues who encourage us and provide support as and when they can. They have helped us with lectures, cases, space, feedback and new ideas amongst many other useful things. They also serve as the word of mouth to inform residents about the existence of the entity.

3. Curriculum: This is probably the most important aspect of what one sets out to do. We figured it was impossible to deliver all information at these conferences and so decided what we would focus on is providing a basic platform from which residents could build a more detailed knowledge base. We also decided to pick a less emphasized subspecialty (musculoskeletal radiology) as the focus of the conference. Initially, we began in a haphazard manner by just deciding to show cases and teach residents to take them interactively but eventually, we decided to move to a more structured approach. Presently, we have a 45-60 minute didactic session followed by an interactive case session. We have also decided to structure the curriculum into core topics (eg: approach to plain film trauma, arthritis, tumours, hardware, infection) which we will repeat every year in the first six months and advanced topics (MRI, US) which we will vary annually.

4. Timing, regularity and location: It is important to find a time, place and frequency that allows maximum attendance. We figured 6 PM on Thursdays at a centrally located institution (in our case Parel) is perfect. Most people are done with work by 5 PM, which gives them enough time to make it. Thursday is far enough from the weekend that it does not eat into vacation. Central location allows everyone to come. A monthly session allows faculty and residents to recuperate, be fresh and prepared for each session.

5. Session monitoring and feedback: This is where the core group plays an important role. Every session must be monitored for quality of content, delivery and resident satisfaction. Feedback forms are also important. They should be handed out at the beginning of the session and collected at the end. Space should be kept for resident suggestions and e-mail addresses so a mailing list can be developed. If you listen to the audience, it comes back. It is also a good idea to document feedback for future developments and retrospection. We found that suggestions were important in our selection of topics, improving image quality and changing our location. Our own experience with electronic feedback has been quite poor!

6. Finding teachers: Every institution is blessed with their knight in shining armour and it is through residents and fellow radiologists that we get to know who they are. Dr. A at Hospital X teaches temporal bone well and Dr. B at hospital Y is a master of neck spaces while Dr. C at hospital Z is superb at bone tumors. This is how we find them. In addition, we all happen to have friends who are radiologists overseas who need to see their families in India. When they make the fatal mistake of telling me they are in town, they are gagged, kicking and screaming and asked to deliver their best to the group! Most of them love to speak on their pet topics and are always open to ways in which to deliver information. We have found that requesting them for a nice 45-60 minute lecture followed by 10-12 interactive cases to drive home the salient aspects works well. We stress on emphasizing important practical points and spending less time on inane details and long lists of syndromes. In some cases, we’ve requested them to get their residents. Involved and residents have delivered excellent lectures with guidance from these teachers. The results have been fabulous.

7. Follow up: It is always important to follow up each session with a brief note that summarizes the salient points. I sometimes find things listed in a structured manner in a textbook make it difficult for me to figure out what is important and what is not. This is what the note should do. We make it a point NOT to distribute the lectures (power points) through this medium. Lectures are the work of the person preparing them and given the little respect that most people seem to have for intellectual property, we let the lecturer decide on how they would like their information to be shared.

Our experience in the first four months was quite varied. The first session had 60-80 residents, the next had 20, the third 12 and fourth had 25. After that, we consistently see 60-80 residents. We even have a few residents who come regularly from Pune, which is quite nice. This makes sure we have our conferences as planned as we can’t let their trips go waste!

]]> http://wanderingradiologist.wordpress.com/2009/09/30/the-mumbai-haad-sena-community-radiology-education-for-a-city-%e2%80%93-part-i/feed/ 0 wanderingradiologist http://wanderingradiologist.wordpress.com/2009/09/19/of-loss-and-reflection-25-years-on/ http://wanderingradiologist.wordpress.com/2009/09/19/of-loss-and-reflection-25-years-on/#comments Sat, 19 Sep 2009 08:27:33 +0000 wanderingradiologist http://wanderingradiologist.wordpress.com/2009/09/19/of-loss-and-reflection-25-years-on/ ]]> Dear Anya,

Today I write about my father. Someone you never knew and will never meet but I think it is important that you know about him. He’s a part of your genetic make up and knowing him may give you that additional window into yourself.

Many who knew him can scarcely believe that it’s been 25 years since my father passed away. For me, I was just ten and memories are vivid, but few. Mostly in photographs that my father took of us, and my mother maintained for us in an album till I was about ten.

He was born in 1944 in Jamnagar, Gujarat and then quickly moved to Colombo, Sri Lanka where his parents lived at the time. The latter will always haunt you for any time the country’s name is taken you will feel a strange attachment to it. My grandparents lived there for a good many years and although I never went there, I heard so much about it growing up I almost feel like I did. Trust me, you cannot be easily de-linked from it. The home they lived in hosted so many guests and had so many memories associated with it that even now when anyone from the family visits they will try and find the address just to say a quick hello to the current residents of a large building that I believe has replaced a small and cozy home!

His childhood was as best I know was mostly uneventful. He was a good student with an active interest in sports, especially table tennis and cricket and apparently quite unlike the rest of us quiet, graceful and well mannered. There is however a major childhood event which involves a sleepwalking incident where he almost took a walk into a lake (was not so lucky another time as you will see). The other large negative that his sister will point to is that during his school days he somehow always managed to stand by her shabbily dressed and embarrass her. From what little I know of him, this could not have been intentional.

As a child, from what I recall, he had fascinating interests. He seems to have preserved everything in pristine order. I distinctly recall sitting one afternoon and building and painting a plastic ship from a Spanish armada that was one of his toys as a child! I know he enjoyed photography because he had so many great pictures of us and I still keep and cherish his old Asahi Pentax camera. In addition to this, there is a great picture he took of Pandit Jawaharlal Nehru while he was on tour to Sri Lanka. Finally and most curiously he collected autographs and as a result of this I (and thus you) have inherited a wonderful collection of autographs. I started collecting them too briefly, but didn’t quite have the persistence.

Following schooling in Colombo, he moved for his inter-science (standards 11 and 12) to Baroda (Vadodra) and after doing quite well there found his way into one of the earliest batches of the Indian Institute of Technology (IIT) in Powai, Mumbai. After spending four years at this bastion of technologic education in India, he moved to do his masters in mechanical engineering at Oklahoma State University, worked for a bit in Logan, Ohio (from which came his nickname by a boisterous cousin; “Logan no Jogan”).

After four years in the US, he returned for a trip to India only to be smitten by my mother and they were married amidst the blackout and fireworks of the India-Pakistan war in December 1972. My mother never wanted to move to the US and within the next four years, your aunt and I were on the scene and so he never returned to the US.

He worked for years at Voltas and all I recall is that the last few years that he worked there, he was in a section called “Marine Products”. I don’t believe the Jain in him could take it and so he marched on to an entrepreneurial career helping my grandmother build a stuffed toy manufacturing business. Unfortunately, his time was up and the sleepwalking came back to haunt him a day before he was to officially start his life as an entrepreneur and he was taken from us in an accident from our balcony.

My own memories though are wonderful. I recall spending time with him on weekends tinkering around with things as he made it a point to religiously document our development through photographs. He had picked up tennis in the US and regularly went to play at the Bombay Gymkhana. I duly followed as an appendage, thus beginning my destiny with this establishment that you similarly take advantage of. For years, I held on to a maroon pimple faced Dunlop Barnard table tennis racquet and a couple of warped Wilson tennis racquets with their wooden frames to prevent them from warping.

His tastes in music were very varied and the old Magnavox record player with the Sony amplifier and spool player are etched in my memory. We spent hours listening to everything from Sesame Street to Mantovani (his favourite) and Silsila (his favourite Hindi music track) to Michael Jackson (Thriller!). I am not a music connoisseur but certainly like listening to a lot of different music. I hope I can pass some of this on to you.

We took regular family vacations to interesting places. I recall a road trip to Mandavgarh, Ujjain and Indore via Makrana and numerous trips to Mahabaleshwar, Lonavala, Madh Island and Nargol. I recall a time when on one of these trips, out of curiosity he decided to smoke a pipe for the first time after he came back from the US.

I’m not so good at remembering his food habits, but I do recall he liked his “bhinda” crispy (we never got it at home). He also liked the occasional drink. I recall the beer mugs my parents picked up on a trip to Sri Lanka in the 70’s that we have inherited and spending many hours going through the phenomenal collection of miniature drink bottles he had and learning to be the bar tender at parties (mixing lemonade). Speaking of the miniatures, so proud was I of his collection that I insisted on showing it off in great detail them to a visiting elderly aunt. This of course resulted in her believing my father was an alcoholic and making him promise he would never touch alcohol again in his life!

My first ten years are quite like the last 25, rowdy and undisciplined; I always remember his patience in dealing with me and cannot recall an instance of him losing his temper with me. I try to be the same with you. In the few years that I had with him, he offered me such a wide variety of experiences; many that I still apply to my every day life, and yours. If I can be half the father he was for at least twice as long, I’ll be really thankful and I hope you will be too.

Love always,

Papa

But then again, life isn’t all that simple is it. I saw it coming during second MBBS and my thoughts were confirmed during third MBBS. There was this thing called Obstetrics and Gynaecology. Something that  I found it incredibly hard to be even remotely interested in. Despite many friends suggesting excellent graphic books with very few words and one that had a bright red cover (I think designed to keep you awake while you read it) it was just something that was going to elude me.

Every cloud must have its silver lining and I found mine in a book by an author who shared the same last name as me. The lining was not so much in the book though, as the person as you will soon see. At the time, I knew this person, more as an uncle, probably a fairly serious physician with an academic background and I wondered if a borderline student like me should approach him for advice. Well, such is the joy of a foolish youth that such things don’t really bother you that much. And so, off I went to visit and see if I could get through this Obstetric and Gynaecologic hurdle armed with ignorance and a hope that if not anyone else, a blood relative could help.

The conversation as I recall began quite seriously with some discussion of different books to read, wards to visit and procedures to see. My vision was getting blurry and a sinking feeling was setting in. I nervously asked “why the hell do they have so many different words for different parts of labour….isn’t the thing complicated enough?”

Little did I know that this was the line that would open up a whole new world as far as me and Obs/Gyn went. The next thing I knew, we were in the labour and delivery area of his hospital; he had grasped one of the recently born babies, turned it upside down and demonstrated to me the entire process of labour and delivery in real time and for the first time it actually made sense to me. For good measure he threw in a few funny medical school stories and I chipped in with the only thing funny I knew; bawdy jokes and just like that the deal was made. I was to spend my Saturdays with him learning Obs/Gyn (never really opened a book after that) and in return I was to drink tea and tell him bad jokes. The year flew by and I never thought much more about Obs/Gyn and looked forward to my Saturday tea and joke session (where unknown to me I was acquiring an education too!).

Life went on, the third MBBS exams came. I was asked by one of my examiners during the viva if I wanted to do Obstetrics and Gynaecology. The answer was the obvious “No way!” and I went on to do radiology (and am admittedly bad with fetal sonography!) and further specialized in bone and joint imaging.

The point of the story though is that there are many hurdles in the life of a medical student and we seldom come across people who recall their own years as students. Making the effort to find some areas of common interest are so important in catching the attention of the student and using unorthodox methods that deliver concepts rather than details are what great teachers are about. I hope I can deliver something similar as an academician and still look forward to having tea and cracking jokes with students even if they don’t go into radiology. I know as the student I still enjoy doing this with my uncle.

Thanks very much it’s been more about life than about Obstetrics and Gynaecology. Most great teachers seem to get it…why can’t more of us?